Wednesday, September 25, 2013

bíblia da sedução da bíblia


"Turn! Turn! Turn!"

To everything - turn, turn, turn There is a season - turn, turn, turn And a time for every purpose under heaven A time to be born, a time to die A time to plant, a time to reap A time to kill, a time to heal A time to laugh, a time to weep To everything - turn, turn, turn There is a season - turn, turn, turn And a time for every purpose under heaven A time to build up, a time to break down A time to dance, a time to mourn A time to cast away stones A time to gather stones together To everything - turn, turn, turn There is a season - turn, turn, turn And a time for every purpose under heaven A time of war, a time of peace A time of love, a time of hate A time you may embrace A time to refrain from embracing To everything - turn, turn, turn There is a season - turn, turn, turn And a time for every purpose under heaven A time to gain, a time to lose A time to rend, a time to sew A time to love, a time to hate A time of peace, I swear it's not too late!
Faço parte da mala direta de um cara que admiro muito, Neil Strauss, escritor e jornalista.  E recebi a preciosidade que transcrevo a seguir, depois de ter lhes oferecido uma música inspirada na sabedoria trágica, na visão cíclica da vida, do Eclesiastes. Quem canta é o grupo "The Byrds". Eu não a conhecia e me apaixonou descobri-la, nesse texto de Strauss que infelizmente está em inglês, e que não tenho tempo agora para traduzir.
Especializado na cobertura da cena musical, é colaborador do New York Times e da Rolling Stone. Mas o que ele realmente fez pela minha vida foi me premiar com horas de gargalhadas, sobretudo as melhores -as voltadas para nós mesmos, mostrando o tanto de nós que seria trágico se não fosse mesmo é cômico. Refiro-me às minhas trapalhadas com o sexo oposto. Sempre me senti perdidaço nesse território, muito por "culpa" da criação mimada e do excesso de livros, de biblia-oteca interpostos entre mim e a realidade.
 Strauss traça esse mesmo cenário auto-biográfico ao explicar os segredos da arte da sedução, num livro delicioso, chamado, simples assim, "O Jogo". O subtítulo é mais sugestivo: "A Bíblia da Sedução - Penetrando na Sociedade Secreta dos Mestres da Conquista". Uma narrativa, certamente romanceada, da experiência de Strauss nos subterrâneos de uma febre norte-americana e mundial: grupos que, virtualmente, em workshops ou "em campo" (boates, principalmente), estudam e praticam as regras para abrir o coração e -para os menos idealistas- as pernas das mulheres. 
Ri muito por, com os óculos deste jornalista da grande imprensa, nerd,  amante de Joyce e Dostoiévski, "cara legal" mas um desastre com as mulheres, rever minha trajetória de sonhador donjuanesco e constatar o quanto sou distante da eficiência dos Artistas da Sedução, mas próximo do espírito deles, como em espírito sou próximo a quase tudo rs. 
Como pisciano com ascendente em Áries e também Vênus (outro mestre da sedução fala em "artes venusianas" do amor, por analogia com as artes marciais da guerra) em Áries, além de Marte em Aquário, tenho sim os ímpetos e, por que não, talentos do Jogador, e mais encanto até pelo jogo do que pela sua consumação final, de tão "católico" (e encucado) que me criei para as delícias e perigos do sexo. 
Nada mais excitante no sexo do que a culpa bíblica que o torne inacessível e perigoso. Por isso meu interesse pelas artes maquiavélicas da conquista, aliás historicamente cunhadas pelas mulheres, como contraponto à força bruta do homem, mas hoje necessárias para todos, em tempos de mercado agressivo em tudo, com vínculos instáveis, competição de todos com todos (e pior para nós, as gostosas descobrindo as delícias de outras gostosas) e tesão precocizado e enviagrado para todos nós, dos 8 aos 80, no mínimo.
Mas "O Jogo", tratado de sedução ou "Ligações Perigosas" da vida contemporânea, e que certamente vai virar filme, é tão libertino que torna fascinante o avesso de si: a religiosidade. Vemos ao longo do texto, entre técnicas de PNL para o ataque e relatos de orgias, espocarem aqui e ali arrependimentos e conversões; sedutores que descobrem a superficialidade da vida que levavam, jogadores viciados como quaisquer outros, na droga não do amor, mas do poder sobre o outro, seja este outro a mulher em si, ou os concorrentes masculinos e o "loser" que puxa a perna do sedutor artificial toda noite embaixo da cama melada de mais uma trepada.
O sexual latente no espiritual, e vice-versa: jogo eterno dos opostos, à espera de uma conjugação hermética, sapiencial, que o email a seguir aponta onde está: no reconhecimento, que vem do Eclesiastes, da vanidade de tudo (mais que vaidade no sentido tolo do pavão vaidoso, vanidade como o ser vão, a fenda e fragilidade irreversível, no tempo que é cíclico, de tudo o que respira e logo fenece), no cultivo da sabedoria, da honestidade consigo e com os outros, e na sorte (construída com muito afinco, também) de descobrir uma mulher para amar, um trabalho e um lugar pra estar e uma vida a viver.
-Unzuhause-


Hey Caio,

In the spirit of the times, I wanted to share with you all the most
pretentiously titled email I've ever written to you. A few of
you may have seen a draft of it on the website.

What I enjoy about this list is that it's a way for me to speak
directly to you. It's something I've never gotten to do
before. Because whether writing for Rolling Stone or completing a
book, I've always been forced to cleave closely to a defined
structure and to carefully iron every idea, paragraph, phrase, word.

The following has no structure.

It has not been ironed.

You've been warned...

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THE MEANING OF LIFE AND THE SECRET TO HAPPINESS
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When I was in high school, I had a teacher who gave us a reading
list of the best works of literature in the world. Number one on
that list was the Bible. So during summer break, I decided to read
the good book as literature. And one small section really struck me
at the time: The Book Of Ecclesiastes.

It is the famous book in the Bible that begins "vanity of
vanities, all is vanity," something that should be posted over
the entranceway to all L.A. clubs. It's been heavily quoted in
timeless songs, such as "Turn Turn Turn."

And it's basic philosophy is this, at least in my
interpretation:

Work hard at your life and yourself. Be a good person, and enjoy
everything there is under the sun. The author writes: "I
searched in my heart how to gratify my flesh with wine, while
guiding my heart with wisdom...I made my works great, I built
myself houses... I became great and excelled."

But, in his old age, he surveys his labors: "I looked on all
the works that my hands had done and on the labor in which I had
toiled, and indeed all was vanity and grasping for the wind."

No, this is not a sermon. Keep reading. Neither is this a Buddhist
message about renouncing the material world. Because, in the end,
the speaker in the Book of Ecclesiastes decides: "Eat your
bread with joy and drink your wine with a merry heart... Let your
garments always be white and let your head lack no oil... Live
joyfully with the wife whom you love... Whatever your hand finds to
do, do it with all your might, for there is no work or device or
wisdom in the grave where you are going."

So what God is saying here is get drunk. It's totally cool.
Just clean up afterward.

Actually, the message is this (in my crude non-scholarly analysis):
Find a life to live, find a woman to love, find a place to
work--and live to your fullest, love to your greatest capacity,
work your hardest, and be a good person. Then die knowing nothing
will have really made a difference in the overall scheme of things.

This may not necessarily be my belief, or yours, but here's the
takeaway: if all is vanity, then stop making yourself
miserable--just keep busy and be happy.

That, of course, leaves the question: What should we be doing with
this time, and how do we stay happy?

So let's leave the Bible and return to the present age.

First of all, don't expect to be happy all the time. If
you've ever had a pet, you'll notice that the pet
doesn't complain when it's hurt or in pain. The human
animal is the only one that says, "Why me?" -- as if it
is our birthright to be happy all the time.

Sometimes we're sad or angry or depressed. But if rather than
fighting against it, like it's wrong and some kind of disorder,
you just relax into the emotion and ride it through until it's
over, it doesn't have to be a gut-wrenching experience.
It's good to experience these extreme emotions: it lets you
know you're alive and feeling.

Of course, we'd all like to stay positive and happy and content
as much as possible. It's especially useful to be in this state
when interacting socially, because it's the best way to attract
other people to you.

So how does one stay in this state?

My secret: Balance.

Even if you love your work, you can't spend the entirety of
every day working. You can't spend it partying or sarging
either, as fun as that may be. However, you'll find that if
each day, you productively do something in each of the following
areas, your mood and confidence and charisma and happiness and
inner game will skyrocket:

1.Work

2.Physical (exercise, running, swimming, a sport)

3.Social (and, yes, that can include Rules Of The Game missions)

4.Creativity or Education (whether it's writing, making music,
cooking, programming, taking classes, or learning another language)

5.Relaxation, whether it's reading a book or watching TV or
playing Plants vs. Zombies or staring at the wall and contemplating
life or lying in the sun and thinking about nothing.

So, your mission:

Make a list of the specific things that make you happy and balanced
in each of these categories, and then make an effort to comfortably
fit them all into your schedule at least five days a week. Most of
these areas don't need to take more than half an hour each day.
And chances are you're doing at least two of them a day anyway.

If you find that days are passing by and you're not exercising
or socializing, for example, you may need to actually write out a
daily schedule for yourself and then stick to it.

And, finally, if you're one of those people who says they have
no time, chances are that the problem may not be time but time
management. Start keeping track of exactly what you do each day and
for how long. Actually write it down on a sheet of paper: how much
time you spend eating breakfast, how much time you spend checking
emails, what you're doing with your time at work. Then see
where the inefficiencies are and eliminate them.

And then, of course, die. It's all vanity anyway. But it's
fun, you get one chance, and you might as well start making the
most of it right now, before it's too late.

Yours,
Neil Strauss